Having twins causes us to be put on display much more than I thought it ever would. You would think, with twins being more common these days, that people would be used to seeing them. And I have to say, I think mine are pretty darn cute but it amazes me still how much attention you get. It seems more noticeable when I take just one out and can wander the aisles in Target without stares. I have heard all kinds of crazy comments. Luckily, now that they are older I haven't heard the "are they identical" question very much. I guess people don't know what to say but if you see a twin mom don't say things like "Double Trouble there!" or "You sure do have your hands full!" I mean what do you think I am going to say back to that...yes my hands are full so please hold one while I shop?! I love being a twin mommy! It is worth all the extra energy it takes to raise two same age kids just to hear them laugh together. I love everything about it so no it is not trouble and yes my hands are full but so is my heart. I am so lucky to have two beautiful children to love. And when they say you have your hands full I want to say I have TWINS not 10 kids! Speaking of which I am glad the novelty of the Octo-Mom has worn off because everywhere I went, it seemed people wanted to ask me what I thought of her. Well, probably the same thing you thought of her!! Again, I have TWINS and she has 14 kids!!! A little different!
Finally, I think some people are well meaning but for the most part I think this is just a way to sound like you are not nosy but of course you really are...in different variations I have gotten "So did you know you were having twins?". Well, no in fact I went to the hospital and poof out popped two! Or if they know we adopted they ask "did you know you were getting two babies when you went to Texas?" No our agency waited till we got there and yelled SURPISE!! When people ask if we knew if we were having twins, I think it is their way of asking did you do fertility treatments. Which is a personal question and one that a complete stranger has no business asking (however, I don't mind talking to people who are going through it too because that is what helped me so much). Yes, twins run in my family (my mom is a twin) and yes, I did fertility treatments. So yes, I did imagine that I would have twins someday. Just not in the wonderful, amazing way our children came into our lives.
I laughed really hard at this because I too have received all of these comments with my twins. First the identical part, as you know if you have a boy and a girl they can't be identical. I just have to stifle a laugh and say no they are fraternal. My husband just educates them. I am so sick of Octo-mom, because I am constantly asked the same question and my thought is the same as yours. I have 4 kids not 14.
ReplyDeleteThanks for writing this. It was exactly what has gone through my mind and I just haven't ever written out.
I enjoy reading about Skylar and Elaina, because it gives me a glimpse of what I am in for with Logan and Lucy. I hope to someday meet you.
Thanks.
Good to hear your perspective. But gosh, I got all teary, it's just so touching to listen to you as a mom. We're all grown up, huh?
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